How to teach your children sexual education at home: When considering the end of the winter break of 2020, you are likely to be modest in realizing how little we know about what lies ahead. It is safe to say that no parents thought they would spend 2020 learning how to educate their children at home.
Around the world, parents have gone to social media to vent how difficult it is to replace their children’s schools and teachers. Many parents have forgotten math and science far from being students themselves. Remember how an article should be constructed or that the subtle difference between colon and quasi-colon may have laughed as an easy task, but since quarantine, the tide has turned.
Even the smartest and most accomplished can’t remember every subject they learned in school years ago and can’t be subject matter experts on every topic – including sex education.
As a sex teacher and a kindergarten teacher prior to grade 12 myself, I often get frustrated when people comment that sexual sex should stay home. I agree that parents should be involved in this aspect of learning and prove their experiences and beliefs with the basic tenants of anatomy, physiology and hygiene, but sexual education, if conducted in a comprehensive and good manner, requires more than knowing how to use a condom or in any way inclines the uterus.
This is where trained and certified professionals come. We, who have devoted our lives to studying the medical, social and pedagogical aspects of sex, know that addressing all the concepts and concerns that students need information about is not a small task.
Now with the educational landscape, more advanced parents need help in sex education than ever before. So, where does one start?
Here are four tips for making home education in sex education a positive and rewarding experience for both students and parents.
1. Start offloading what you think you know.
Just because you are an adult with sexual experience does not mean that you know all there is to know about sex. The fact of the matter is that many of us have received below the level of sexual culture ourselves.
This means that many adults cannot name parts of the reproductive system or provide a comprehensive interpretation of positive consent. Instead of pretending you know that all the answers start with your kids sharing what information was given to you that was not wonderful and what you now realize you wanted to know. Then go on this learning journey together.
2. Collect your resources.
The great news about living on Internet day and age is that we can now find comprehensive and medically accurate sexual education resources for any age group, all with the click of a button.
There are a lot of great books, like Sex is a funny word written by Cory Silverberg, as well as videos, like Visible Body, that can help you explain concepts to your children. You can also buy a pre-made curriculum
3. Do not make it not so.
Sexuality education should not be fearful, stressful, or confusing. Remember you have resources for the chatting aspects you need support with, but you also have a lot to share based on your experiences and your own notes.
Sharing with your children about both the positive and negative sexual experiences that you went through, what it means for your love and physical acceptance, and what you want to know to make the relationships that you enjoyed in a better health are strong conversations and participation.
4. Have fun!
Ultimately, this should transform something that many families struggle to discuss into something joyful and enjoyable. Sex is much more than having children or avoiding disease – it’s one of the most fascinating parts of human experience.
Focusing on sexual beauty is a gift we can give to our children that will then be passed on to future generations.
This time around the global quarantine and uncertainty were difficult to say the least. Without diminishing all that we faced and lost, we can also search for and find goodness. Taking a more active and enlightened role in sex education with all its nuances should be something to be cherished and enjoyed.
Who knows, you might end up learning something yourself.